Be the Programmer, not the Computer!

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When we think about our mind, we tend to think of our conscious mind and our subconscious mind.

Your conscious mind is the part of your mind that you’re thinking with right now. The conscious part of your mind is logical and analytical.

Everything below that is your subconscious mind.

The subconscious part contains all the memories of everything you’ve ever done, seen, heard, felt and thought in your life, as well as running the body and keeping you safe. It controls your automatic behaviour – like how you feel when people say certain things to you – or how, once you learn to read or write or ride a bike, you can do it without even thinking about it. Yet in the beginning, when you were learning to do these things you had to think about it with your conscious mind. Through repetition, you were able to build new habits and programme your subconscious mind.

Remember when you first learnt to drive a car? Remember how difficult it was to coordinate mirror, signal, manoeuvre? Changing gear and don’t even mention parallel parking? Yet as you practised your sub-conscious learnt. Then after a while, you were able to jump and in the car and just drive, without even thinking about it consciously. You have programmed your subconscious mind.

Your subconscious mind is just like a super computer and your conscious mind is the computer programmer. What you think about consciously is programmed into your subconscious.

The conscious mind is meant to be the computer programmer and master of the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is meant to be the servant of the conscious mind. However, most people do not understand this and let their subconscious mind run them. When this happens, people become victims and start having a lot of problems.
The subconscious mind was never meant to direct your life. Like a computer, it runs programmes behind the scenes, but it needs a programmer to make sure it is running the right programmes, otherwise, it will run you into oblivion if you let it, not because it is bad, but because it has no reasoning. Why would you let a non-reasoning mind run your life? Yet this is what most people do.

Your conscious mind acts the gatekeeper. The idea is that every time a thought, feeling, or impulse arises out of the subconscious mind, it should be checked. When a thought or feeling or impulse arises, it is the job of the conscious mind to use its powers of reasoning, discernment and discrimination to check that thought at the gate. If the thought or impulse is positive, you let it into your mind. If it is negative, you push it out.

A healthy mind has good healthy thoughts. When you become aware of a negative thought or feeling or impulse, change your focus by focussing your attention on your breath, or a positive thought or affirmation. By changing your focus and attention, you stop giving energy to the negative thought, feeling or impulse. Just like a plant that you no longer water. Without water, the plant will eventually wither and die. By changing your attention and focus, the negative thought will eventually wither and be replaced with a positive thought or affirmation.

By focussing and affirming on your new positive thought, your subconscious mind will start to form a new habit. Your subconscious mind learns quickly. Most new habits can be formed within twenty-one days.

Start building your new habits now and become the Programmer of your mind.

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Think about what you want, not what you don’t want

Pink ElephantHave you ever noticed that the more you try not to do something, the more you end up giving in and doing it. The harder you try not to do it, the harder it is to stop.

You’re using willpower, which is going to fail at some point. You see, if a person’s using willpower, that generally refers to the conscious mind. The problem with will power is that it means you are consciously focussed on what you don’t want. A person who is using will power is constantly thinking, “I’m definitely not going to smoke today,” or “I’m not going to eat any cake this afternoon,” or “I’m not going to accept the offer of a biscuit.” Instead your mind hears “smoke”, “eat cake”, “eat biscuits”.

This is because the unconscious part of your mind has difficulty in dealing with a negative. The unconscious part of the mind experiences through pictures, sounds and feelings.

If you think about the history of language, we started by labelling things we could see. “Rock”, “Tree”, “Bush”. Later on our languages evolved to include words like “not”, or “could”, or “should”, or “should not”, or “We should never do this”, and so on. We added these as words, but at an unconscious level our language is still very primal.

To think about what you don’t want, such as not smoking, your mind first has to think about it, to negate it. This is a really complicated and difficult thing to do long term.

For example, If I say to you “Don’t think about pink elephants, whatever you do, do not think about pink elephants, floating by in the pink sky.” Your mind has to first think about pink elephants and then maybe cross it out, or change the colour, or blot it out by concentrating on another thought. But if I hadn’t mentioned pink elephants, you probably would not have thought about them all day.

Your mind doesn’t want to sabotage your efforts. Your mind wants to help. It’s just you’ve been programming it wrong.

Instead of focusing on what you don’t want. Focus on what you want.

When talking to a young child or training a dog, positive reinforcement works best. Especially if you praise them when they do things well. It’s the same with your mind. Focus on what you want. “I am healthy.” “I am slim.” “I am fit.” Your mind hears, “be healthy,” “be slim,” “be fit.”

Hypnotherapy can help you change a habit or behaviour at an unconscious level.

Want to know more? Contact me for a free consultation to find out how I can help you change your habit or behaviour.

Katina Chapman, Hypnotherapist

 

Did you know that you go into a Hypnotic Trance every day?

swinging_watchHave you ever been really engrossed in a good film, when suddenly it ends and what felt like 20 minutes has flown by.

Or maybe you have been in a lift and got out on the wrong floor? You’re in a lift and everyone is transfixed as the floor numbers roll by. And the lift goes up or down, then when the door opens, you follow everybody else out. Your automatic action is a natural process where your unconscious mind takes over, so you don’t have to think about things all the time.

Or maybe you have driven along a familiar route, perhaps to work, and you reach your destination, you get out of the car, and suddenly you realise, “Where did the last half hour go to?” Your unconscious mind was guiding your drive home, whilst your conscious mind relaxed and zoned out, while you focused on more interesting subjects.

We all experience trance in the course of a normal day, often whilst performing habits like brushing our teeth or driving on ‘autopilot’.

Think about the moment just before you fall asleep at night: you know you could open your eyes if you wanted to, but it feels so good that you simply want to keep them shut. That in-between-awake-and asleep time is a natural trance state.

Imagine an iceberg submerged under the ocean. Above water, the iceberg only shows about 10% of its full bulk. This is the conscious part of the mind; the logical, analytical, thinking part of the mind. Below the water line is the unconscious mind which stores your memories, emotions, instincts, habits, imagination, dreams and inner wisdom as well as running the body and keeping you safe.

While your conscious part of the mind is less active, the unconscious part of the mind can absorb and accept suggestions and ideas. Remember your unconscious mind makes up approximately 90% of your overall brain power, so it’s easy to see how trance can be such a powerful state.

Hypnotherapy helps people make changes to their behaviour. It cannot force you to make any changes against your will. It is a state of deep relaxation. In hypnosis, your conscious mind is less active and your unconscious mind is ready to absorb and accept positive ideas and suggestions to help you change the behaviours you want to change, enhancing your well-being and empowering your life.

Many creative, productive people enter these altered sates of consciousness, these mini trances, in order to do things they are good at.

Interested? Try a free group taster session, please see my website for more details.

Introduction To Hypnotherapy and Self-Hypnosis

introduction-to-hypnotherapy-and-self-hypnosisHave you wondered about hypnotherapy, but are worried you can’t be hypnotised or that you would not be in control? Have you heard about some of the amazing benefits, but are worried that you might be made to look silly or perhaps you are nervous about what might happen? Would you like to know more about hypnosis and experience what a trance state actually is?

Hypnosis is a state of deep relaxation. Once you are in a relaxed state, your subconscious mind is ready to accept positive suggestions and is free to come up with the perfect solution for you to change the behaviours you want to change.

In this free taster session you can:
* Understand what hypnosis is.
* Discover the truth about hypnosis and debunk some common hypnosis myths.
* Expereince firsthand, in a safe environment, what a relaxed trance state feels like.
* Learn how hypnotherapy can help you enhcnace your wellbeing.

When: 6:30am – 8pm Monday 13th February 2017
Where: Suite 14, (1st Floor), St Francis House, 141-147 Queen’s Road, Norwich, NR1 3PN
Cost Free Taster Session
To book: Call Katina on 01502 587 341 or hello@katinachapman.com

If you enjoyed this free taster session, a four session course commences the following Monday where you can discover more about hypnosis, hypnotherapy and self-hypnosis. In these fun interactive sessions you will learn hypnotherapy techniques and self-hypnosis to help your relax, change your emotional state, enhance your well-being and empower your life.

Everything in Moderation

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According to the British Dietetic Association,
the average person will consume 6,000 kcals on Christmas day.

If the ‘average’ person consumes 6,000 kcals, that implies a lot more people must be eating significantly more calories to counterbalance all those people eating a lot less. Wow. I know I like my chocolate but I don’t think even I could eat 6,000 kcals in one day!

Research says that “over the festive period, which seems to kick off earlier and earlier every year, the average person could consume an extra 500 kcals per day, equating to a weight gain of around 5lb by the time we reach the beginning of the New Year.”

I’ve spent the last few months exercising more and getting fit. It would be a shame if I undid all of my success to date for a few weeks over indulgence.

This made me think, “How could I make sure I don’t gain weight or inches and maybe even lose some weight or inches between now and the New Year.”

  • How would you feel in January if you have gone backwards?
  • How are you going to feel if you have undone all your good work so far?
  • Now imagine how good you will feel if you were slimmer and healthier in the New Year.

The main difference between me and a slimmer person is the way they think.

When I’m being good, I stick to my healthy eating and exercise daily. And then something happens – I get stressed or tired and eat chocolate, or maybe just enjoy my food and drink too much on a night out. Then my thinking gets all screwed, “That’s it, I’ve blown it, all that hard work out of the window, I might as well carry on eating. Pass me the chocolate!”

This is the key difference between a ‘slim thinking’ person and an ‘overweight thinking’ person. The ‘overweight thinking’ person thinks “I’ve had too much wine / cake / chocolate / dessert / food, I might as well keep drinking or eating”. Whereas a “slim thinking” person enjoys their night out or that special dessert and the next day returns to their usual healthy eating.

I’ve decided I’m going to think more like a ‘slim thinking’ person over the festive season.

The great thing about the festive season is that most people have time off work. You are free to slow down and really appreciate the company around you.

Slowing down when you eat and eating with consciousness helps you eat less and be satisfied with eating less. Did you know, the average adult human stomach can hold only about two heaped handfuls of food (about the size of a small cantaloupe)? Eating slowly and consciously helps you become aware of that heavy fullness in the stomach that indicates the point of satiety. Once you slow down and tune into your stomach you can enjoy the feeling of lightness and not being stuffed like a Christmas turkey!

I know there are going to be certain meals when I will be eating and drinking a lot more than usual; there will also be meals in between where I can enjoy eating less. I can enjoy that lightness and give my digestive system a break too.

I find it helps to have a target to focus on. One of the best targets is to chose an item of clothing that you want to fit in to in the near future. For me it’s a pair trousers that are too tight to do up.

I also find it helps if you use a smaller plate and drink with a small glass. Have you noticed how big wine glasses are now days? I prefer to use my wine tasting glass; it’s the prefect size. Think about the little changes you can make, they all add up.

My plan is simple enjoy everything in moderation:

  • Think like a ‘slim thinking’ person.
  • Plan healthy meals around events that I know are happening.
  • Allow myself to have what I want to eat and drink at planned events and commit to healthy eating in between.
  • Eat more slowly and enjoy the company of my family and friends.
  • Give my digestive system a break by enjoying the spaces between my planned events and eating less at other meal times.
  • Do something active everyday.

On 4th January I will try my trousers on again and see if I can get into them!

Have a great Christmas and fabulous New Year.